New Wings at Thirty

THIRTY FLIRTY & THRIVING ✨💫 Thankful for all the connections, memories, wins and struggles in my 20’s that have made me into the person I am today! Feeling so blessed to walk into a new decade stronger, more confident, and happier than ever. 30 coming at you with that 2020 clear vision!

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12/26 #latepost 💫✨THIRTY FLIRTY & THRIVING ✨💫Thankful for all the connections, memories, wins and struggles in my 20’s that have made me into the person I am today! 💖 Feeling so blessed to walk into a new decade stronger, more confident, and happier than ever. 30 coming at you with that 2020 clear vision, and more Chanel + Fine Dining in my life 🥂💋check out my last blog post of 2019 here: https://katiemelanielam.com/new-wings-at-thirty/ [link also in bio] detailing 8 eye-opening lessons I learned in my 20's that have laid the foundation for my 30 milestone! . . . . . #decemberbaby #capricorn #birthday #dirtythirty #30 #hello2020 #instadaiy #byebye2019 #tistheseason #loveyourself #onfire #loveyourlife #turning30 #newdecade #happybirthdaytome #goldenyear

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Truth be told, my 20’s felt like a roller coaster – I laughed, I cried, I was disappointed, but all of that prepared me for the 30 milestone. During this strange time of transitioning from young adult to adulthood, I learned some profound truths, and today, I want to share those 8 lessons with you:

1. HEALTH IS WEALTH

When you are young, you feel invincible. But please, don’t take this for granted. Because I struggled with an eating disorder since my teenage years and up to my early 20’s, I knew what it was like to have my basic health and well-being taken away from me. After conquering this mental illness by the time I graduated college in 2014, I came to appreciate that the groundwork for all happiness is good health. Your body starts changing in your late 20’s. Your metabolism slows down. You start to appreciate early nights, and struggle with pulling those all-nighters you used to proudly brag about . Start taking good care of yourself now. This includes exercising regularly, establishing a good beauty regimen, and managing your diet. The sooner you build the foundation for a healthy mind and body, you will thank yourself in your 30’s.

2. DREAMS REQUIRE SACRIFICE

Nothing in life is handed to you, and if you have big dreams, those big dreams will demand big sacrifices. It takes years and years to accomplish your dream, and to be where you want to be in your career. But remember this: you are not alone; everyone feels this way, especially in their 20’s. But if you want to turn those dreams into reality, you have to put in the time and the work other people are simply unwilling to do. Making those short term sacrifices to achieve your long-term goal, and being consistent about it will get you on the right track.It might be a lonely road, so ask yourself: are you willing to go that extra mile to achieve your goals and realize those dreams?

3. AUTHENTICITY IS KEY

Never lose track of yourself. Being different is cool. Trying to fit into a certain mold and hide your differences is a high-school mentality influencing you. At some point in my 20’s, I stopped giving a damn. I picked up on toxic energies and cut-off “fake people”. Embrace your true self and live your most authentic life. Not only will you find satisfaction, but you’ll get the true happiness you deserve. Life gets better as you love yourself more. And you’ll start realizing why the inside really counts.

4. EMBRACE FAILURES

Look, everyone fails. Failing is what success is built on, so embrace it and do not fear it. Failure actually means you’re doing things. Your 20’s are a time for you to take risks, make hard decisions, and stop comparing yourself to others. Always learn from your mistakes and take responsibility for your actions. You’re human, making mistakes is okay, just make sure not to make them twice.

5. KEEP GRINDING

For whatever reason, people will root for you to fail. Unfortunately, it really has nothing to do with you at all. Don’t let your insecurities get the best of you. Just keep working and stop caring what other people think. Those people are not worth agonizing over, that’s time you’ll never get back. Persist against the odds and refuse to give up on what you believe in and are working towards. Remember, everything takes time. Relationships, careers… they all take time and require patience. 

6. BE POSITIVE

Part of life is knowing that people will come and go. You’ll outgrow some, and gravitate towards others. Cut your losses, remember the good times, and move on. Know that you can’t please everyone. Let go of the bad, and welcome in the new. Things also may not work out how you want them to. But think of it this way: something or someone better will come along. It means that the right opportunity or person is still out there. Quit trying to be a people pleaser, and please yourself first. 

7. ADAPT TO CHANGE

In your 20’s, you and your friends will change. Accept that most relationships are not built to last a lifetime. Each experience helps form who you are. So instead of assuming people will reciprocate your efforts, focus on adjusting your expectations and attachment levels. You’ll find your tribe when you start eliminating negative people and make room for those who deserve your attention and energy. Time is your most precious resource because it’s the only thing you can never get back. Because seriously, the older you get, the faster life goes by. Build a life that makes you proud!

8. YOU’RE ENOUGH

Your 20’s are about finding your way and enjoying the journey. Life is short, so spend it loving who you are. There are many days where you can feel alone and insecure like you’re failing at everything, but just know that it’s a phase; it won’t last forever. If you feel down, just give yourself credit for how far you’ve come, and get on a path that you feel will help you realize your potential and your dreams. Never compare yourself with others because it will only drive you crazy. At the end of the day, there is always going to be someone better looking, smarter, richer, etc., so just know your worth, and you’ll succeed in anything you put your mind to!

I leave you with this thought: When you are evolving to a higher self, the road seems lonely but you’re simply shedding the energies that no longer match the frequency of your destiny. Cheers to the 30 milestone!

Posted By: Katie Melanie Lam · In: Entrepreneurship